Entitled aunt demands fancy wedding and refuses to attend niece's small backyard ceremony: 'She went to my parents to ask if we are too poor for a real wedding'

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Isabella Penn
Jun 1, 2024 6:00 AM EDT

When you think of a traditional wedding, a certain image comes to mind. Lots of people, catered dinner, cake cutting, dancing, etc. But not every couple chooses to have a traditional wedding. It's ultimately up to the bride and groom what they want to do. They can go all out, or they can have an intimate elopement. There are literally no rules. Well, apparently, this entitled aunt seems to think there is. She can't imagine why her niece would want to opt for a small backyard wedding. Mind you, the couple has been together 15 years and has a kid, so they're pretty solidified in their relationship already and do not want to spend money on things they deem unnecessary, like a big wedding ceremony and reception. Instead, they chose to elope and have a big potluck in their backyard, and they are really excited about it, too. Until their distant aunt decided she was entitled to share her opinion. Which apparently means that a small wedding means they are broke. She thinks their plans are so 'sad' that her family will not be attending.

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    r/ r/Entitled People • 22 hr. ago justnofamplease Entitled aunt demands fancy wedding
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    I'm getting married in august to my partner of almost fifteen years. We have a kid together and recently bought a house with a yard, so we decided to go to city hall on our anniversary and tie the knot!
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    We are simple people so we decided on a simple party: backyard barbeque. That way, we dont have to rent a place or pay through the nose for fancy food. We're providing pasta salad, potatoes, all the veggies and some basic meat but we asked everyone to
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    bring their 'own meat' (or veggie burger or whatever) so we can make a giant buffet. A friend of ours is bringing his DJ stuff and we're going to dance for a bit. I made my own dress in a nice blue fabric, our kiddo got to pick our sparkly shoes and a
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    sparkly dress, partner went to Zara for a suit. We made our own invites (kid made a cute drawing of us that i used in Canva) and decorations. Fun right? Enter... Aunt W. She's my father's sister. We see her once or twice a year at christmas and the occasional family
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    bbq. De dont like her or her entitled son. We sent her our invite and she went to my parents to ask if we are too poor for a real wedding? Why is it not fancy? It's not normal! Why is it so sad? She's never heard of a wedding where people bring their own food!
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    Cant my parents pay for a real wedding? Turns out she's discussed this with my entire side of the family by phone and 'everyone agrees it's sad'.
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    My parents called me to tell me about the conversation (they thought it hysterical and wacky). So i called her to ask why she cant talk to me if she cares so much? She denied it at first, then told me 'everyone agrees it's too sad to attend' and then told me my
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    grandparents and her and her family arent coming. I was also told she was ready to give us a VERY lavish gift but now just wont. (We explicitely stated no gifts and suggested people donate to a local charitty instead).
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    We were LIVID at first. How dare she? She also dragged the rest of the family along and made my grandparents not come either. We gave it some thought and we think her logic is: her son got married five or six years ago with all the bells and
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    whistles, the glitz and glam, fancy party. We attended (it was boring as ) and now Aunt feels she also deserves a fancy party to attend. Like we were going to turn around and spend 15000€ or more just because someone we see once a year thinks we are 'poor' or 'sad'. All in all: good riddance.
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    . kray_van_cake • 22h ago I think it sounds wonderful and I would definitely attend. Having them attend would just spoil it, so ignore them and do what makes you happy. Congratulations!
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    bugzapperz • 22h ago Sounds like a great party! Why do people put themselves into debt to throw an elaborate reception? Be glad she's not coming. It will be more fun without her and the other "judgy" people.
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    blanche-davidian • 22h ago All it cost was the price of potato salad to eliminate some really terrible guests from your fun, sane, backyard celebration! Imagine how hard she would try to ruin it if she attended? Bullet: Dodged. Enjoy your celebration! And Congrats.
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    Ambitious-Border-906 • 22h ago Thank G*d you can see through her silliness! The point of a wedding reception (historically at least) is to blend the two families, but do you really want her anywhere near your family?!
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    Mrs_Tanqueray • 22h ago When we got married 35 years ago our reception was in the church hall - family and close friends only and everyone - brought their favourite dish. It was incredibly successful, we all had so much fun. (And we are still married for what it's worth)
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    KevinAbroad . 22h ago I can understand if she doesn't like your wedding but going round bad-mouthing about your wedding is so omg. She should just not attend if she doesn't like it. I would 100% attend a wedding like yours! It sounds super chilled.
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    Careless-Ability-748 • 22h ago She sounds like a piece of work and you'll have more fun without her. My husband and I got married. with a backyard bbq and did our own decorations. It was happy and relaxed.
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    PhiLambdaSigma • 20h ago Some people want a marriage. Some people want a wedding. Sounds like you two have your priorities straight. May you enjoy a long and happy marriage.
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    No_Proposal7628 • 20h ago I would rather attend your wedding than your entitled aunts' sons wedding. Yours sounds like fun times. Call the grandparents yourself and explain your thinking to them and how you'd like them to come if you do indeed want them there.
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